Very Unprofessional and Not at All Sportsmanlike Coach!
MOUNT LAUREL, NEW JERSEY -- They have a coach named Rob [snip], he is very rude, very arrogant, and very brutal towards peoples' feelings. My daughter was only three years old, this incident happened in September 2004. From day one of this soccer session, I knew there was something weird; there was no sportsmanlike, friendly attitude towards the parents and the children. But I did not want to jump to any conclusions. Please bear in my mind my daughter was only three at the time and we had so far not heard anything bad about her, and we so far had not had our parenting skills questioned. She is a good child, she does not swear and she does not hurt anybody, she is a friendly child who is still learning about the world. This was her first time in such an environment. Every child is different, and she is one of those children, it takes her a while to get used to an environment she has never been in. I even emailed the coaches as a courtesy to tell them about her and the kind of person she is, so that they can take it easy with her.
Unfortunately, the coach is a man name Rob [snip], who does not have any children. He is rude, and unapproachable. In this day and age, with all the weird things happening, parents need to have communication with their children's teachers and coaches. This man was very unfriendly from day one. One cannot even approach him just to ask him questions. The first words that came out of his mouth to me were that the man who was a volunteer in charge of recreational soccer was disorganized, and if he was in charge it would not be that way. There were a few other remarks he threw out here and there but I chose to ignore them all. He talks very rudely - all this for nothing, no one did anything to him to talk the way he did. Bottom line here is, my child just wanted to run around on a side of a huge field, she played for a while but she just got tired and wanted to do something different. You can't force a child to do something they don't want, and my husband and I are not looking for her to a professional.
She did not misbehave in any way, she did not disturb the game and interfere with any of the children, she was minding her own business basically! She just did not feel like playing anymore, I asked her a few times, but in the middle of the heat in an open field she said no, so I just let her run on a side by herself, she was in my view and it was an enclosed safe field, this coach who was supposed to be coaching the other children, came up to me out of the blue, and said, "you don't know how to control your children, which means you don't know how to raise your children!" This coming from a man who does not have any children, who isn't even married!
Prior to that, he said to me out of the blue, "all women know to do is talk on the phone!" when I just called my sister to ask her how she was doing. The soccer classes were my relaxation. I just wanted to lay back there and watch my daughter have fun NOT be under tension, walking on egg shells wondering what the next thing he will say is! His army style of teaching did not sit well with me either; he kept making them salute most of the time. There might be two sides to every story, but in this case, it was just one sided and this guy has a problem with us. It was all for nothing and all those days I battled traffic at 5:00PM on a Monday to be at that field was such a waste of time! When he said the remark to me, I just walked away, I did not make a scene, just because he tried to ruin my mood and he made a fool of himself in front of the other parents, did not mean I was going to be that way! I walked away and complaint about it to his superiors, but even though they apologized for his behavior, he did not! And they did not reprimand him. In fact, his boss who told me first he never checks his emails and is never on the computer, after feeling sorry for me, turned the tables and said I get 50 emails from parents telling me he is such a good guy! My reply back was, âIf he is such a good coach, why did he talk to me in a rude tone and tell me I don't know how to raise my child?" His reply, "I don't know!" Their customer service is also very bad, they don't reply to emails, and even when they do they are rude and they don't know how to approach people. Bottom line here is, don't waste your time here, the atmosphere is not at all sportsmanlike, and they do not take any action, if you were treated rudely by anyone. Even if you are an innocent victim. By the way, when he said the above remarks to me out of the blue for no apparent reason, I just did not say a word to him, I just walked away. Just because he acted that way didn't mean I should be just as ignorant and arrogant.
I had contacted them but they never really did anything, they never took me seriously! I just want everyone to know my experience. Don't waste your time, taking your 3/4 year old to their sessions. Overall, between him and the representative that answers their general emails, there is a definite problem with their people skills! They really need lessons on how to treat people with respect!