Radio City (Rockettes) Entertainment Complaint - This is public relations?

Review by milashka on 2007-01-09
NEW YORK CITY, NEW YORK -- This happened a few years ago, but people should still hear about it.

After attending the Radio City Christmas show in Minneapolis, I e-mailed Radio City to ask whether they would forward a letter of appreciation to the performing Rockettes. A public relations staffer replied that yes, they would gladly address and forward the letters. To minimize their inconvenience, I enclosed a copy of the letter in 22 stamped and sealed envelopes, each with a printed Rockette addressee name taken from the Playbill. I mailed the package to New York, as instructed, along with a cover letter.

After a few weeks, I e-mailed the PR staffer for a status report. She replied that “they are being sent out to the individual women this week.” Several weeks later, I decided to confirm this. I easily located the parents of a Rockette through the Internet and asked them to please check with their daughter about whether she had received the letter. She had not. I e-mailed the staffer with this news, expecting an apology and an explanation for her lying to me. I instead got a phone call from a man at Radio City, presumably a lawyer, who told me that the letter, which he had read, would not be forwarded. (Nobody had ever asked me for permission, or even informed me, about opening the stamped, named, and sealed envelopes.) He also directed me to cease all communications with Radio City, threatening to “notify the authorities.”

The letter itself was not threatening or anonymous, and although it was heavy with praise for the Rockettes’ talents, dedication, and stamina (up to four shows a day), there was not a single reference to physical appearance or attractiveness. The letter also applauded the other performers, including men, and the backstage personnel. As for me, I myself am a lawyer, and far from being a convicted stalker or sex offender, I have yet to receive my first traffic ticket.

When I e-mailed the PR staffer and Radio City executives about my experience, including the phone call, I got a visit at my home from the local sheriff, passing on a message from Radio City to stop communicating with them. Despite the intended intimidation and harassment, I wrote to several Radio City executives with the full story. People such as Peter Croken (General Manager), Susie Arons (VP, Public Relations), and Kathryn Schroeder (Director, Public Relations) signaled their approval of my blatant mistreatment by ignoring the correspondence.

One more thing. I eventually sent the letter, unsealed, to the parents mentioned above for forwarding, at their discretion, to their Rockette daughter. The parents wrote back with profuse thanks for my “beautiful letter.”
Comments:22 Replies - Latest reply on 2007-01-16
Posted by heaven17 on 2007-01-09:
All due respect, this sounds kinda creepy.
Posted by bill on 2007-01-09:
Locating and contacting one of the performers parents is wierd. Something in those letters didn't sit right with Radio City so they sent the sheriff out to talk to you. Plus, you say this happened a few years ago, and you are obsessing over it enough to come on her and talk about it. Add it all togther and it spells STALKER.
Posted by Skye on 2007-01-09:
You say you are a lawyer, so you should understand where they are coming from. Why are you still dwelling on it??? And as for contacting that girls parents, beyond creepy.
Posted by Anonymous on 2007-01-09:
I think the OP is looking for absolution. The Radio City people had every right to open those envelopes. They were not in the postal system at that point and they have a responsibility to protect their people.
Posted by bill on 2007-01-09:
Opps I meant to type "come on HERE and talk about it" Now I sound kinda creepy.
Posted by heaven17 on 2007-01-09:
Thanks for the laugh, bill.
Posted by Anonymous on 2007-01-09:
Doesn't that make you sad when the MAN won't let an honest secret admirer never *convicted* of stalking or a sex offence show his respect and admiration for honest hard working young woman. That's not America.. that's not even Canada although it maybe France.
Posted by Justusryan on 2007-01-09:
Posted by Skye on 2007-01-09:
Bill, it was funny. And you are by far, not creepy at all!
Posted by Anonymous on 2007-01-09:
The OP is an immigration lawyer. Russian by birth.

I found 31 postings at, joined March 29, 2006.

Easy to find info on the Internet.
Posted by spiderman2 on 2007-01-09:
Dude, you sound like a stalker.
Posted by Anonymous on 2007-01-09:
spiderman2, The OP was able to find some of the parents by using the Internet. I was only trying to prove how easy it is to find information.
Posted by Anonymous on 2007-01-09:
milashka, I think you did a good thing and I am sure the mothers and daughters appreciate what you have done. But I think I would let it go at that.
Posted by bill on 2007-01-09:
Thank you Skye.
Posted by Anonymous on 2007-01-09:
I think Heaven17 summed it up perfectly....creepy!
Posted by Skye on 2007-01-09:
Passing by, I think Spiderman was talking to the OP. No way would anyone think you are a stalker!!! :)
Posted by Skye on 2007-01-09:
Bill, you are very welcome :)
Posted by Skye on 2007-01-09:
Nice work Passingby, I was checking out that website, very interesting.
Posted by spiderman2 on 2007-01-09:
PassingBy -- Skye is right. The OP sounds like he is a stalker, not you!!!
Posted by Anonymous on 2007-01-09:
Thanks, now I can sleep better :)
Posted by milashka on 2007-01-13:
Allow me to respond. First, I know I’m unlikely to change the consensus perception, but I will say, and Radio City can verify, that apart from what’s mentioned in my posting, I have never attempted to contact any of their performers, directly or indirectly. Few of my fellow stalkers have such amazing restraint (at least from what I hear at our monthly meetings). I spent a lot of time writing the letter, trying to convey the joy experienced by the city's children and other audience members who were unlikely to send fan mail saying so. I suspected the letters had not been forwarded because Radio City personnel seemed very busy; I thought the letters might have gotten lost in the shuffle, purposely or not. I contacted the parents, from names and residences mentioned in a newspaper article promoting the show, largely to avoid direct contact with a performer, which is why I went openly through New York in the first place rather than secretly tracking them down individually online. The opening line in my letter stated that Radio City had forwarded the letters for me, thus assuring the intended recipients that I did not have their addresses. Second, I have no problem with Radio City protecting their performers, though at the time of this episode they were not employees nor any longer under contract. How about this: “We want to protect our people. Do you mind if we open and read the letter?” I would have said okay. Third, as stated in my posting, the sheriff visited me because of my further contact with Radio City executives about the matter, not because of any attempt to contact the performers. How many posters at this site have had law enforcement called in merely for exercising the right to register a complaint with higher-ups at the company? Fourth, I am not an immigration lawyer from Russia.

Any reputable business would have handled the matter this way: if worried, ask to open the letter; if alarmed after reading it, notify the police and the performers immediately (that curiously did not happen here); if not alarmed but still concerned, politely inform the writer that out of caution they had decided not to forward it.

Geez, I wonder what the reaction would have been, from Radio City and you people, if I had said “pretty” or “nice legs” in the letter.
Posted by milashka on 2007-01-16:
Update: This matter has now been resolved to my satisfaction. I no longer have bad things to say about Radio City Entertainment or any of its employees. Consider this complaint withdrawn.

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