eHarmony.com Informative - Eharmony Matching Process
I wish that I had done a lot more google searching about Eharmony before I handed over my money and signed up for 3 months membership. I feel very stupid because all you have to do is type "Eharmony complaints" in any search database and you come up with tons of personal blogs about how disappointed people are with Eharmony. And, by the way, I was pretty hard pressed to find anyone PRAISING E-harmony, except of course the guy in their ads. I am now among those ranks. I paid them $110 for 3 months membership and for that they served me up "matches" from NY, NJ, PA (I'm not from any of those states and I also filled in their section about how far away I was willing to travel and if I wanted to meet someone from far away who would relocate and I said NO). The reason I feel so stupid is because, like most sucker games, this one seems so obvious AFTER I lost my money. You sign up and they use their 29 dimensions to find you matches from their existing database. But if none of those pan out, you have to wait until someone new signs up. And then YOU are one of the masses waiting for that new person to sift thru their list of matches. When there aren't any matches for awhile, they start with "flexible" matching. I guess that's where they started going to other states because there was no one left in my state for me. I noticed one section where they indicated that attractiveness was one of their 29 rating factors and I thought, how interesting, what are they doing, assigning numbers to people and then matching their idea of a 2 with other 2's and their idea of a 10 with other 10's. I sent an e-mail with the question but all I got back was the same quote that was on their website that prompted my question. Does anyone else out there feel like me where they'd like to decide for themselves if a person is physically attractive to them? I have no idea if they kept a mass of beautiful people or some incredibly ugly people from me, I have to wonder what number was I given? Please please please spend approximately the same amount of money (or less) on one of the other sites and get your money's worth because YOU will have control over whom you get to meet, not some corporation and their 29 dimensions. Honestly, if there's some guy out there who's a mean, impatient, non-romantic, sullen drunk, is he really going to HONESTLY appraise himself on the SELF-DIRECTED survey that they send you to determine what kind of person he is?. Boy am I dumb, please don't be like me, be smart and say no thanks to Eharmony.